Tips for
Managing a Younger Squad
Whether you are coaching Tinies, Minis, Pee
Wee, or Middle School cheerleading, one rule stands above all others:
You cannot be their friend. You can be friendly, but do not act like
you are friends and part of the same social group. As the coach, you
belong on a higher level in the social order of things so you need to
act that way, otherwise your team will see you as a contemporary and will not follow your directions.
After all, what kid lets another "kid" boss them around? So be
firm about who is the boss and very
clear from the beginning about the rules and the consequences for
breaking them. Make sure they know if they tumble when it's not allowed
and they risk running into someone and hurting them, then they have to
________. (Sit out for 3 minutes. Do ten push-ups and ten sit-ups,
whatever is age-appropriate.) Consistency is the key. If you don't
follow up you are sending an unclear message about what is and is not
okay. You are also sending the message that it's okay to ignore the
rules.
Be prepared for sulking, crying, foot stamping and so forth, but don't
tolerate it. Calmly remind them of the rules for behavior and leave it
at that. I had one who loved to run into the corner whenever she felt
maligned. I learned that the more I tried to argue her back onto the
mat, the more she fought and the more I gave up my power to her, thus
making me weaker with all the kids. In her case, the best thing to do
was let her have a few minutes to lick her wounds and get herself
together, then say, "It's almost time to stunt (or tumble.) Only the
people who are working now will get to do the fun stuff, so I guess Kid
B will have to take Kid A's spot in her stunt unless she's ready to come
back and finish her job." That always brought her running back in a
hurry. So try to remember it's not about "winning" the argument with a
child who has already reached her breaking point. It's about what will
keep order within the group overall, and help the child to learn that
if she chooses to sulk in the corner for half an hour, then she is also
making the choice to miss out on something she likes to do. (I am
sure other
coaches have many other effective ways of dealing with these problems, but
this is the method that I have found works best for me and my program.)
Expectations
Remember, these are little kids. They can only handle so much
instruction time; one minute per year old they are at most, or you will
lose their attention and the information you are trying to give them
will just go in one ear and out the other. You can work longer with them
when they are actually physically participating, but for sitting still
and just watching/listening, keep it short and concise.
Because they are young, they are only so strong
and coordinated. Don't be looking for fancy stunts because they
physically can't do them yet. (Nor should they, without proper training
in stunt progressions.) And don't expect perfection in motions. Not all
of them are going to match positions or hit or clap at the exact same
time.
Communication
Get them settled and focused on you by using a
whistle, a special call and answer chant, or some other attention
getting tactic. Once all eyes are on you, be explicitly clear when explaining how to do cheer skills, #1 for
safety reasons and #2 to prevent frustration. Watch their faces closely
when they are working. You don't want melt downs, and you don't want
someone to go home hating cheering and vowing to never come back. With
some younger kids, you may need to get behind them and actually move
their arms and legs for cheers, jumps, or dances, until they get it on
their own. You want each kid to have fun and be successful, so don't set
them up for failure by not explaining things well enough to them and
then leaving them to think it's their fault they aren't getting it.
And if you do find yourself in that position, be sure to tell the kids
it was your fault for not explaining better and making sure they
understood what their job was, and then apologize for it. That way not
only are you correcting a problem that you caused, but you are also
demonstrating to the children how to own up to mistakes in a mature
manner.
Watch out for a need to constantly correct them. They can only take in
so much information at once, and to rattle off a list of things that
need to be fixed just brings them down. So be sure that you only give
them one or two things to correct, and follow up with something they are
good at, even if it's just, "I love your enthusiasm", "You're such a
hard worker!," or "You have a super smile for cheering!"
(You have to be sincere when doing this. Kids know a throw-away
"compliment" when they hear one.) Also be aware
that they tend to take criticism very personally. You can plant a seed
for learning to take it more gracefully if you tell them this: "If I
come into your house and straighten out a crooked picture hanging on
your wall, would that make you cry? Would it make you mad? Of course
not! And the same should go if I or another team member straightens out
your high V, or toe touch, or dance moves. Don't take constructive
criticism personally, but please do listen to it and learn from it."
(You may find it best not to let other kids do the correcting, but do it
yourself to
prevent problems with kids who don't like being bossed by their peers.)
Always end the practice with a team meeting. Don't let them run out on
you at the end. You need to make sure that they are responsible about
cleaning up, and you also need to check in with them. Did they learn
anything new today? Did they do well with something? (If you have a
pretty small group, feel free to go down the line and tell each child
what you saw them succeed at. Keep notes during practice if you think
you will forget. You can also ask the kids what they saw their teammates
succeed at that day.) And ask them what they need to work on. I've never had
one seriously say, "Nothing." They have a pretty good idea of at least
one thing they can be working on alone or as a team. Team meeting is
also the time to hand out papers because usually parents are there to
take them.
Planning Practice
Always come prepared with a written plan. I like to suck them in with some fun stuff like watching a cool routine on video or playing games before putting them to work, or make them have so much fun they don't know that they are working. For warm-ups you could just dance like you are at a party. Or you could do relay races which develop their skills, like these. You could also teach them Little Sally Walker (lyrics). Be sure to always give them a good stretching session. I like to push a teeny bit more than you normally do for a regular stretching before exercise because I want them to gain flexibility. No more than 10-15 minutes for the warm-up and stretching combined.